5 Days of Death; Day 3

When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.  ~ Kahlil Gibran

We mourn that which is irretrievably lost. As a person passes, our own insecurities, infirmities and sadness are projected during public ceremonies for mourning. How much sense does this really make? Isn’t the dead person beyond caring considering they have lost their frame of reference for earthly feelings and sentiments.

Sages advise us to live in the moment. But by doing so, should we acknowledge that each passing moment ‘dies’ as it dwindles and fades into the past. Should our mind be firmly fixed on the essence of existence in the here and now? The passage of time does not cause the sadness that the passing of a person does. Perhaps because the death of someone close is driven by something eternal; love.

Grieving is a lonely process and for me at least, mourning the loss of my Gung Fu teacher in 2004, involved a period of isolation. Perhaps by designing a life where I punch and kick a heavy bag, skip and sprint without interference is the baggage I carry forward; a desire to train alone. Maybe, contemplating my sifu’s death, moves me to action. How apt, considering the transmission of Hei Ban Wing Chun Kuen when I was his disciple, involved so much punching and kicking. Maybe the solitary workouts these days speak to how irreplaceable he is.


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